Date Night Disaster

At the weekend JHogg and I got to have one of those elusive date nights. I have been twitching to get out of the house and be just the two of us for quite a while. We have done it twice since Piglet was born, once in July last year as a belated anniversary break and that was just for 1 night, and once in October for a weekend to attend a wedding.

Although we enjoyed the trip in October, we were staying with lots of our friends. It wasn’t exactly the best setting for connecting as a couple. We were pretty excited for a night of adult conversation, a couple of drinks and some dinner at our favourite restaurant, followed by a lie in the next morning before collecting Piglet. It should have been bliss.

Date Night Disasters | There is nothing worse than looking forward to a night out for it to go completely wrong. Whether it be with your husband or wife, a partner or a first date - you sometimes wish you'd just stayed at home!

My in-laws live right next to some friends of ours, so we decided to drop in and see them before dropping Piglet with his Grandparents. We arrived and I accepted a cup of tea – that was my error. I suffer from migraines, and caffeine is my main trigger. I found that when I cut it out of my diet around 8 years ago that the migraines great reduced. Since then I have found that one cup of tea on the odd occasion generally doesn’t affect me, and it had been around 2 years since I have suffered from a full on migraine.

Tea drunk, we went to the in-laws and sorted Piglet out for the night. Excited to be alone we hopped in the car and headed home to shower and change for our night. Half way home, my head started to bother me and a wave of nausea hit. I tried to shrug it off and put it down to the stuffiness of the heating in the car.

At home I took paracetamol and forced myself into the shower, determined to have a good time. Blow drying my hair felt like hell, and I’m not sure how I managed to get myself out of the door. We got the bus into town and went for a pre dinner drink.

I opted for a soft drink, and thought I was maybe hungry. Due to my type 1 diabetes I had been struggling with high blood sugars all day and ended up skipping lunch as I didn’t want them going higher. So despite the fact dinner was only 45 minutes away I had a packet of crisps too, and it seemed to help.

I’m not sure exactly what happened next, but we had to cross the street to get to the restaurant for dinner. Somewhere in the time I went from feeling ok to feeling horrible. From the minute we sat down I was struggling. I left the table twice because I thought I might throw up, but I didn’t.

Date night Disasters | Restaurant

Poor JHogg ended up eating our entire shared starter to himself, and then his main course. I tried one mouthful of my meal and realised there was just no way I could eat it (we got it as a take-away in the end!). My vision was blurring and I struggled to keep my eyes open. It was awful.

After just an hour in the restaurant we left. I don’t know if it was the movement, or the fresh air, but about 5 steps outside of the restaurant I couldn’t stop myself.

I threw up. On the street.


To add insult to injury, some roadworks has just started. So I was chundering right next to them. Even when I was pregnant and throwing up as many as 8 times a day I never missed a bathroom. I just couldn’t control it this time.

Safe to say that after that JHogg and I moved swiftly on to a taxi rank and headed home, where I crawled into bed and slept it off. Perhaps if we have another date night it might go a bit more to plan!

Date Night Disasters | JHogg and Kim

In an attempt to make myself feel better, I asked around to see who else had had a disastrous date night. As usual, I was not disappointed!

Bethany from A Blonde And A Baby first night out was a bit of a flop “Our first date night after my daughter was born was at my OH’s work Xmas do. I had psyched myself up for leaving the baby with grandparents and made an effort getting ready. Turned out they messed up the booking so we ended up leaving early and picking up kebabs on the way home!”

Mandi from Hex Mum had a night out scuppered by kids “I had got my parents booked for a rugby halloween fancy dress party, I was all dressed up as rather funky witch, but before my parents even arrived, little one had got some kind of bug, proceeded to throw up all over me, which ruined the outfit and the mood, so I called off the parents and my husband went alone! How we managed to have 7 children is a miracle….”

I think there are loads of people who can relate to Sarah from The Parenting Trials “Our first date night was about a month or so after our first was born… it was only for a hour or so. We were meant to go to the cinema and for food but instead We literally went to asda to get some money out ended up going inside, looking at baby clothes for about a hour and drove back and collected her lol”

Katy from Hot Pink Wellingtons had a similar evening to us “Our first night away I was so looking forward to an uninterrupted night’s sleep. Unfortunately I woke up in the middle of the night with unbearable ear ache and started rolling around on the bed screaming the place down,being sick from the pain. So much for sleep for both of us! We had a long car journey home where we had to stop multiple times for me to be sick and then a long wait at the NHS walk in centre. Turns out I’d perforated my eardrum and it took 3 lots of antibiotics to shift. We didn’t go away again for a long time!”

Lucy from Real Mum Reviews had a serious case of baby brain “first date night after E was born we went to a comedy gig. I’d got great seats. When we got to collection desk they couldn’t find my tickets… turned out they were for night before and I’d turned up a day late!? ? thankfully they took pity on me and let us have a couple of Empty seats after show had started! What an idiot!”

And Sophie from Mama Mei tried to do something nice but it backfired “I arranged a surprise party for my husband and his friends at the bar where I danced so I thought I’d surprise him, but he got d+v so couldn’t go but I still had to dance. So he was majorly angry at me leaving him ill on his birthday… so it turned out rubbish!”

Have you ever been really looking forward to a date night, only to have it go horribly wrong? I would love you to share it below and make me feel less of a prat!

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    Great blog! There is so much pressure on us to have good date nights but we always fail… so we decide not to plan it anymore (other than the sitter). This helps because we just go with the flow and have no expectations. Hahaha. tHanks for sharing (and commenting) #bestandworst

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      I think that may be what we do next time!

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    Oh no! Poor you (and the others) but well done for managing to arrange some alone time together in the first place! #bestandworst

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      We were so chuffed to have gotten something in the diary!

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    Oh no! What a great idea for a post though. I could tell you some stories of my date nights and indeed my days of dating many years ago that ended in disaster, less said about them the better though.
    Great post!

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    Oh no! Migraines are the worst…What a rubbish night for you!
    We waited two and a half years after my youngest was born for a date night….The night before we were due to go out she jammed her fingers in a door and broke one. She needed surgery to fix it and we obviously missed our date…
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    Ah, I’m so sorry, that’s grim. Better luck next time. My worst date was a trip to KFC, followed the cinema. By the time we came out, the last train home had gone. He was able to walk home, so left me at the taxi rank. I then had a bit of an argument with a taxi driver as it was his last fare for the night and he was hoping for somewhere local so he wouldn’t be out for long. He took me in the end. We didn’t go out again. #bestandworst

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    Oh no! What a nightmare! But a great idea for a blog post. Fingers crossed you all get to go on another date night that is lots of fun xx

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    Oh no! Fingers crossed you all have a wonderful date night soon. Great idea for a post tho! Xx

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