Should We Rely On Dads To Take More Photos?

Who's responsibility is it to take photos of your family? Should we be relying on dads to take more pictures of mums with their children? Or should we all put the cameras down and just enjoy the moment

Recently a Huffington Post article has been doing the rounds which urges Dads to take more photos of their partners with their children. The post brings up how many women have very few photos of themselves with their children and how “No woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies”.

Initially, this struck a chord with me. JHogg is not awful at taking photos, and I would say he is more inclined to do it now that Piglet is here. That doesn’t stop me wishing he did it more though, that all those candid shots that others seem to get would be possible for us too though.

The more I thought about it, the more I considered that maybe the Dads are doing it right? They’re not focused on having a phone or camera in their hand “just in case”. They sit back and enjoy the moment.

Before the days of camera phones, a day out was just that. A day out. We didn’t stop to snap a picture of our lunch and post it online. No passenger seat selfies. No “oh look what a wonderful time we’re having” updates. You simply left the house and had fun.

Going even further back, before digital cameras. You didn’t just snap willy-nilly hoping that one shot was good. You paid for each picture you took. You made sure you were only taking photos of things you really wanted.

I am totally guilty of all of this. My phone is always in my hand, I take photos constantly. Most are garbage but some are great.

The reality is we will not look back on about 80% of those photos. There are so many that it would take too long to reflect on them all individually. So are they necessary?

Perhaps if we took less photos, or worried less about taking photos, we could enjoy the moment more? Rather than moaning that you’re not in the pictures, put your camera down and have fun with your family instead?

I’m not saying there’s not a time and place for taking pictures, but it really shouldn’t be the focus of our day.

And if you really want your other half to take the picture – just ask!

This post first appeared on Meet Other Mums.

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  1. // Reply

    Love this post. It really made me realise how often like you I have my camera out taking photos! This has made me make a vowel to myself to start ‘living the moment’ more and enjoy my time with family without a phone constantly in my hand! Thank you! #KCACOLS

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      Phones are such an integral part of life these days but I really want to work on being more present

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    I know what you mean, but I do wish my partner took more photos of me and my son, as I mainly have selfies or photos my mum has taken (she isn’t exactly the best and photo taking!) he always has his phone on him, but just isn’t very good at thinking about taking photos! #KCACOLS
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    I like escaping the photos! I love taking photos! But, I have to say that I agree..Living life from behind the lens isn’t the same as living life, sometimes putting that little camera or phone in between us and the people we love can sometimes mean that rather than capturing that precious moment…We miss it.

    Thanks for the reminder. #KCACOLS
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    Thoroughly agree. When we do take a photo we most definitely don’t just take the one, we are so caught up trying to catch the perfect moment that we might actually miss the whole idea of the moment. Granted I would love more candid, off guard, natural photographs of me and my daughter BUT that being said hub to be will get his phone out and snap us when we are out and about. To be honest, I’m just happy I am here in my daughters life. Thanks for a great post #KCACOLS
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    The pre-digital camera age was so much simpler; you had less photos, but the photos seemed much more special as they had to count as you were paying for them. I’m the photographer of our family, but my partner does snap away too so I am in the album :). I’m at a stage now where I have way too many photos to ever sort through properly, but I wouldn’t have it any other way <3
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      We definitely have more photos than we could ever need, but that doesn’t stop us taking more. Just in case 😉

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    I have to admit, my husband is the photographer in this family! There are far fewer photos of him than me by a long way! It is him who taught me how to take photos, and it is his camera that I use! I am beginning to pick it up, mainly because I want to make sure that I get plenty of photos of him too! I do feel I’m missing moments when I’m always behind a lens though!

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      Its JHoggs camera that I use but neither of us really know what we’re doing!

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    We have very few photos of me with the kids but we have very few photos altogether as we are so busy being in the moment it doesn’t really occur to either of us to take photos. I do wish we had a few more than we do though!!

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      We’d like a few more family shots. Perhaps I should train the dog to take photos?

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    I don’t like my picture being taken, I like being behind the camera. However I do feel guilty not having more photos with my kids. #MarvMondays

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      I don’t mind my picture being taken when I’ve done my hair and make-up 😉

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    I am not a big fan of taking pictures. Or selfies. I take one or two, just to record where I’ve been with the kids. I don’t stress myself about it at all. When we are all together, my husband takes pictures of me and our kids. He shots spontanious pictures, not missing the moments, or stressing over perfect light or alignment..;)

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      I’d love some spontaneous shots! Far better than the posed ones

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    My husband is terrible at taking pictures and I really wish he’d capture some more of those moments where I am just with the kids, not posing for the selfies that I take myself. I guess maybe he is just enjoying the moment maybe. Great post, very thought provoking insight. Thanks for joining us at the #bigpinklink
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      Its all about striking a balance really. Capturing the moment but still being present!

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      Good for him! I am toying with the idea of 1 hour a day phone free…… but Now I have an apple watch I guess that wouldnt really work!

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    I never take a good photo when I know it’s being taken. The odds are about 50:50 when someone does it spontaneously. I have quite a few shots of my husband and daughter interacting, unaware of the camera. I love them all. I don’t have any of my daughter and me though. I wouldn’t want my husband taking pics continually and missing the day but the odd few would be nice. I’ve actually, as you suggest, taken to asking him now. I’ll just say at the start of the day that I’d like some ad hoc shots and then leave it to him! I agree we’re probably just taking too many as well 🙂 Great post, thanks for sharing! #MarvMondays
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      It’s all about balance I think! Get a couple shots but not too posed and not taking away from just enjoying yourselves

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      I’d love others to take them for me…… it just never really happens!

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    It’s such a fine line, isn’t it – you don’t want to be so busy capturing memories that you forget to enjoy making them, but you still want some kind of record. I think like you say, it’s all about asking! #KCACOLS

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      Exactly! I’m sure theres a balance…… somewhere!

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    I love this post. I’m always somewhere in between here. I want more photos of our memories with us and our kids, but I also don’t want to have my face in my phone or camera all the time. My husband is good about taking photos when I ask him to, but he doesn’t often do it just because. Maybe you’re right and he does have the right idea?


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      Its a tough balance! I do ask JHogg but that takes away the spontaneity that I find often makes a good photo!

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      I don’t mind if I’ve had prior warning that its a photo day and so I’ve done my hair and have some actual make-up on 😉

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    I do wish my Hubby would take more pictures, but you are right about it commanding too much focus these days. I have recently given up trying too much to get the perfect shot. Mostly because if Pinky doesn’t want her photo taken there is no point pushing the issue. The day is more fun without the picture than with a picture of a tantruming three year old because you insisted.
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      I rarely try and get the perfect shot because I have no idea how to do it 😉

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      I am enjoying blogging because of that – an extra way to store memories

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    We are the opposite way round. I take loads of photos and my OH is rubbish. I also find that other people expect us to have captured every moment, when I lot of the time we haven’t and we’ve just enjoyed it at a family. Definitely a fine balance.

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      I occasionally regret not taking enough photos after an activity, but its definitely more fun to ditch the camera and get stuck in!

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    I read this post with interest, because I’ve written a few times about how important it is for us parents to be in more photos for our children. I think you make a really good point though, that a lot of the time we should just put the camera down and just enjoy ourselves. It’s a balancing act isn’t it, between being in the moment and existing in photos for our families. x #KCACOLS
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      I’m glad you liked it! I love a family shot of the 3 of us but they’re rare and hard to take!

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    I don’t often take pictures because I do prefer to live in the moment but I do still take them and when I realised there are literally zero pictures of my children and I because I am always taking the picture in the special moments It broke my heart a little. #KCACOLS

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    Great post, its really made me sit back and think. Whilst I dont think I’ll be able to ditch my iphone or camera that easily, I do think you raise a really good point about only taking as many photos as you need as opposed to capturing everything. I always feel like I need to document everything so that I can look back at it, but the reality is as you’ve said that there are far too many photos to realistically do this. So actually I’m going to re-think my approach to how much time I spend “documenting” versus enjoying the experience and being completely present 🙂 Great post, thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

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      I’m glad you liked it! I do need to practice what I preach a bit 😉 A bit of balance is what we need but it’s not always that easy!

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    I’m the exact opposite. I tend to get back from somewhere and then think oh I should have taken photos of that! I just hate having a camera in my face constantly so I try not to do it to others but I do feel like sometimes I miss out on memories to look back on
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