Solo Parenting

Solo Parenting

Two weeks ago crisis hit. We’re a man down and I’ve been going it solo parenting Piglet. JHogg is here in spirit, but he’s been about as useful as a chocolate tea pot. He had an emergency trip to a&e for a suspected dislocated shoulder, a follow up for an X-ray (which resulted in one of many overpacking incidents), GP appointments and a steroid shot. It turns out it wasn’t dislocated again – thankfully!! – but instead is a bad impingement. His right arm has been out of action for nearly a fortnight, and although it is starting to improve, it will probably be a while before he full recovers.

Over the course of the fortnight these are the struggles we’ve had:

  • Not being able to hold Piglet. He can have him sat in his left arm, but if Piglet slips then he’s not able to lift him up again.
  • Changing nappies. He’s gotten off with doing NO nappies for a fortnight. Not one. He claims he sees no way he can manage with one hand and unfortunately I have to agree.
  • Bedtime help. I am accustomed to putting Piglet to bed – I am the one with the boobs after all. However with his current sleep regression it is taking longer than usual. Normally JHogg would have been able to help me out by starting dinner but it just wasn’t possible. We have had dinner at 10pm a few times which has been less than pleasant!
  • In the 2nd week JHogg felt able to go back to work, but he isn’t able to drive. I have been running a taxi service to and from his office morning and night. It is around an hours round trip in rush hour, with a hot and grumpy Piglet in the back. On every trip he has had a screaming match at one point or another. JHogg has been sitting in the back with him when he can to try and keep him entertained. On a few occasions we’ve arrived to pick JHogg up and he hasn’t been ready which has just prolonged the situation. I’ll be glad when that is over!
Solo Parenting

Waiting for Daddy outside the Physio. Corn puff entertainment

  • The housework has been a bit backlogged. I’ve always been under the impression that JHogg didn’t do much around the house, but he must do something because I feel like I’ve been chasing my tail trying to keep the house clean and tidy.

Its been a tough old fortnight. Hats off to all of those who go it alone parenting every day – you’re incredible! All thats been keeping me going is knowing that one day (soon I hope!) we will get back to normal.

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15 Comments

  1. 14th August 2016 / 1:50 pm

    Ahh I sympathise! My husband had two shoulder operations, one after each of my daughters was born, and I found myself with three children and having to nurse him too! It’s hard work doing everything on your own, I was a single mum for a long time and I think I had forgotten how hard it was! Hope he recovers soon! #KCACOLS

    • OddHogg
      Author
      14th August 2016 / 7:49 pm

      He’s getting better – but man it was tough! I don’t want to be doing that again!

  2. 14th August 2016 / 8:42 pm

    That sounds horrible to happen to his shoulder. Its tough when you’re not used to it, hope it all gets back to normal for you soon x
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.
    Mainy

    • OddHogg
      Author
      14th August 2016 / 9:15 pm

      We’re getting there!

  3. 15th August 2016 / 11:45 am

    Wishing you all a speedy recovery-when 1 is down, it bolluxes up the whole system! I had back surgery just as our second little was born. Ic ould pick up or lift a thing for 4 months. My poor Mrs., she had to do everything for our girls, for me. I am forever in her debt and find that she is quite the super hero. I hope your trip back to normalcy comes very very soon, for all! <3 M'wah #FartGlitter

    • OddHogg
      Author
      15th August 2016 / 5:25 pm

      4 months wow! Hopefully we’ll be back to normal long before that!

  4. OddHogg
    Author
    15th August 2016 / 5:29 pm

    I’ve no idea how they do it! I’d be a mess if this was us forever – don’t think I’d ever manage to get out of my pjs

  5. 16th August 2016 / 9:15 pm

    Phew I feel your pain! I have a nosebleed if the hubby is just half an hour late home from work, the idea of him being out of action for any length of time gives me the shudders! Hope he’s on the mend soon and brings you a big bottle of wine to help you recover too. Thanks for linking with #fartglitter x

    • OddHogg
      Author
      16th August 2016 / 9:45 pm

      Thankfully things are looking up now. He still can’t hold the baby, but he’s no longer in a sling and is able to be generally a bit more helpful

  6. 17th August 2016 / 10:35 pm

    It really is tough going solo, don’t know what I’d do without the other half. Well done on surviving the two weeks in one piece!!! #KCACOLS

  7. Claire
    17th August 2016 / 11:51 pm

    It sounds like hard work. When my husband works late I often find myself wondering how some people do it solo, it’s impressive! #kcacols

  8. 18th August 2016 / 6:23 pm

    I completely sympathise with you it is not easy doing it all single handedly, you must be a supermum at the moment. It’s times like this that we recognise how much help we get, and how much we need our partners to help out and support. I’m glad that the shoulder is getting better and I hope a full recovery is made soon. Try not to worry too much about the house work. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  9. 19th August 2016 / 11:37 pm

    Oh no, hope he’s back to full use soon! Being a taxi with s baby in tow is certainly no fun. #kcacols

    • OddHogg
      Author
      20th August 2016 / 12:05 am

      Thankfully he’s doing much better now thank you!

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